“Happiness is to be found along the way, not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it’s too late.”- Robert R. Undegraff
Life can be easily explained within the analogy “The recipe of life”. Life is kind of like a dish encompassed by the flavors of culture and environment. You may imagine the seasonings to this dish would be the interactions and influences we have with others within our society and communities. Add too much seasoning, you may be overwhelmed with paying attention to what others think about you and your life. The lack of enough seasoning can leave your life without the connections we thirst for, and the acceptance of those who surround us. Life, in comparison to a recipe, has many elements that when combined can produce an elegant dish, or a fast food delight. In the moment, the fast food delight brings a sense of delicious content, but in the long run will lead to unhappiness and complications. Let’s talk about this elegant dish we want to have in our life!
We must be stuck with empty rhetoric when we talk about picking up a “self-help” book from the book store. The highs and lows of motivation and inspiration can be affected by any external influence, but it must resonate from within. Life is a busy entity that never sleeps, never stops growing, and will pass you by if you get caught in it. The best things in life are the simple things, yet often we find ourselves overlooking these glorious gifts life has to offer. What are you to do in order to bring a sense of enrichment back into your life? What are the ingredients to a happy journey?
I would say this is an easy task yet so many people lose the focus of what they love, their passions, their hobbies; what puts a smile on their face and warms their heart. I have photos of my travels and vacations hanging around my house. I have an office full of certificates of training, courses, business accomplishments and my first dollar ever made framed on the wall. I have my acoustic guitar next to my desk, chalk set to draw with, and many photos of my friends and family that is the bank to which I hold my happiness safe and secure.
DON’T OVERUSE THE SEASONING CALLED NEGATIVITY
It may sound like common sense, but a good portion of your happiness may come from those around you. You may get pulled into unwanted drama. Find yourself as the “always there when someone needs something” friend and never have the roles reversed. You’re in luck! The easiest, yet not often obvious, route you may take is to break your connection to the people and things that produce those unwanted emotions and debacles. I more recently found out one of my “best friends” unfriended me from Facebook. Now I’m not one to indulge in the addiction called Facebook, but it is useful for finding things and posts to laugh about. It was a few months before I realized that person no longer felt we had a friendship. I was the one playing the part of the friend who was always there when this person needed help, assistance, money, etc. Was it ever reciprocated? No. I never let that get me down. Money is paper. Connections and memories are forever. Love and support is the catalyst that allows happiness to grow.
gives you purpose.
makes you strive for something better.
from you inspires others to achieve great things.
is the yeast that makes the bread of life rise.
You may have something in your life you’re passionate about right now, or you may have lost that passion because you are swarmed with work, kids, life, stress, and other time-consuming things. I am telling you to rekindle your passion and bring back one of the catalysts of happiness. Passion is the yeast that allows our happiness to rise.
I will give you a homework assignment. DO the following steps:
Step 1: Go to http://www.google.com and in the search bar, type motivational quotes followed by something you enjoy. (I.E. motivational quotes for business, motivational quotes for a loved one, motivational quotes for inspiration)
Step 2: Click on “Images” just under the search bar.
Step 3: Browse through the pictures that pop up. This is a great way to get inspired to accomplish whatever it is you want to get done.
Rekindle what you’re passionate about and see how your happiness will grow. If you’re not sure what to choose, browse around the internet or Facebook for groups to join. Some things you may be interested in is a group that goes running within your city, a photography group, a group that plays softball on the weekend, a book reading group, a nature watching group, or a group that is motivated to make positive changes in your community. Write a book, start a business, go on a vacation and see the world, take a pottery class with your family, make a goal to walk a different trail with someone you care about or the kids; whatever you choose make sure it’s something that your heart wants. Remind yourself of all the little things in your life that give your life meaning and fulfillment.
“The richest man in the world does not have the most amount of money, for money is not the sole provider of happiness. The richest man in the world has a mind full of happy memories with the ones he loves, a heart full of love for the people who make up his life, and lives every day like it’s a blessing.”
The last thought I will leave you with is the gift of giving with no contract binding another person to reciprocate the same kindness that you have shown. There was an old business saying, the author escapes my mind right now, but goes on to say that the best way to be profitable in life is to give. This ideology creates a system of helping others and brings meaning and self accomplishment to the person that embraces it. The purpose of the saying is that when you give back to those who need it, you will receive back what you have given others. It’s similar to the “Karma” effect.
In closing, against popular belief, you have the ability to mold the outcome of your happiness. Give your life meaning, rekindle a passion, write down goals and accomplish them, and weed out the negativity in your life. In the end you should do what makes you happy because life is too short to worry about making other people happy.
P.S. You should check out my passions found in my “Who is Joe?” section. Let me know what you think and what is your passion or motivation that fuels your happiness!